Three Reasons Why Self-Love Will Help You Achieve Your Goals 

Feb 8, 2019

Three reasons why Self-Love will help you achieve your goals 

Do you know that feeling when a goal that you dreamed of does not come to fruition? The feeling of frustration and disappointment that takes over you…

While the sentiment of a goal not coming to fruition may seem familiar, the reasons why that happens are likely to vary. Perhaps it happened because you set a goal that didn’t align with your true self, maybe you lost motivation along the way, or it’s even possible that obstacles beyond your control blocked the finish line altogether.

Regardless of the reason, the underlying cause may be attributed to the lack of self-love. Self-love is widely recognized as a key factor in recognizing and respecting our needs, but it is also influential in setting and achieving your goals.

As you embark on your goals, it is crucial to recognize your worth, connect to your purpose, and be kind to yourself in the process. Adding self-love to the pursuit of your goals helps you to embrace opportunities to learn, love, and thrive. Here are three reasons why self-love can help you grow and achieve your goals in 2019.


In a self-loving process of growth, you hone your self-awareness in order to reflect on where you are and where you wish to be.

Beginning with a reflection of the discrepancy at hand, self-love allows you to connect to the purpose of fulfilling that goal. As you take steps towards your goal, you are tethered to the underlying meaning of your pursuit. This anchor allows you to recognize when you are veering off of your path and empowers you to compassionately reorient your journey.


When you conscientiously create goals that are consistent with your true self, you are naturally motivated.

You are able to believe in your ability to achieve your aspirations. Nevertheless, initiating a new endeavour is difficult, and it can be difficult to maintain momentum over a long journey.  It is common to become overwhelmed when considering long-term goals. The time between then and now can cause you to second-guess your dreams. Self-love helps you to be cognizant of obstacles, such as time and energy, that may hinder your progression. A self-loving practice empowers you to infuse self-kindness, self-encouragement, and self-respect to help you courageously triumph over those hurdles.


Self-love allows you to adequately prepare for detours on your path.

Not only do you see the potential obstacles in your way, but you are able to recognize that it is impossible to avoid all of them. Hence, self-love allows you to see slip-ups and setbacks as an inevitable process of any journey. Instead of becoming discouraged and tempted to abandon your path, a self-loving pursuit helps you to abandon perfection instead. You are then able to realistically accept what is beyond your control, and use moments in which you may seem derailed as learned lessons.  You seek to illuminate your blind spots, welcome opportunities for growth and are able to be the best version of yourself as you aspire to achieve your goals.

This article has been contributed by:

Dr Shainna Ali, the author of The Self-Love Workbook: A Life-Changing Guide to Boost Self-Esteem, Recognize Your Worth and Find Genuine Happiness, is an active blog contributor for Psychology Today, the American Counseling Association, and the National Alliance on Mental Illness.

A mental health clinician, supervisor, educator, and advocate, Shainna is passionate about destigmatizing mental health counselling and helping individuals worldwide recognize the importance of fostering mental wellness.

Would like to learn more? Join us at the Women in Business on Wednesday the 13th of February for Self-Love Day celebration and virtual workshop with Dr Shainna Ali to hear her interview about why “Self-love: The key to achieving your goals in 2019”

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